We live in a time when our thoughts and opinions can be shared throughout the world at a moment’s notice, with little to no accountability. It is easy to forget that we will all have to give an account for every empty word we have ever spoken.
“But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every empty word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.” – Matthew 12:36-37
When I consider the fact that John 1:1 describes Jesus as the Word, it greatly convicts me of the many times I have used my words judgmentally, hastily, and carelessly.
We spend a lot of time considering the right words to say, the right tone to use, and the right time to speak. God’s Word tells us that it is not only what we say and how we say it that is important. What is equally important is what we choose not to say.
“Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be hasty in your heart to utter anything before God. God is in heaven and you are on earth, so let your words be few.” – Ecclesiastes 5:2
I am guilty of being a “problem fixer.” To make sense of life, I’m often tempted to wrap things in a bow and offer easy answers for complicated problems. Unfortunately, that has led me to make some careless statements in haste without genuinely considering how they would be received.
On their own, these statements may seem harmless and well-intentioned:
- ‘God won’t give you more than you can handle.’
- ‘God does everything for a reason.’
- ‘God is in control.’
But to the woman who was just diagnosed with cancer…
- to the woman who is planning funeral arrangements for her husband or her child…
- to the woman who has miscarried for the 3rd time…
- to the woman who has just been sexually assaulted…
…these well-intentioned words can be heartbreaking and devastating.
The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. – Proverbs 12:18
God speaks purposefully into our lives. He doesn’t waste words or speak without reason. Each word in Scripture has significance and power. We must never underestimate the power of our words to be life-draining rather than life-giving.
Because God is our Comforter, and we are created in His image, we naturally have a strong desire to comfort others. For many of us, that comfort involves speaking words of encouragement.
However, when people are in the midst of tragedy and experiencing overwhelming pain, it is often our Spirit-led actions that speak louder than our words.
Jesus used His words to bring life and hope to people. When there were no words to say, Jesus listened. He wept with those grieving, served those who were hungry, ate with those who were rejected and persecuted, and healed those who were broken.
We must follow Jesus’ example. We can breathe life into people with silence, by ministering with a hug, a listening ear, a helping hand, or simply our presence.
The heart of the righteous studies how to answer, but the mouth of the wicked pours forth evil. – Proverbs 15:28
We often ask the Holy Spirit to guide our words, but we also need to ask Him to guide our listening. Over the last couple of months, I have begun praying Psalm 141:3: “Set a guard over my mouth, O Lord, keep watch over the door to my lips.” The Holy Spirit responded by maturing me in the skill of active listening. It has had a significant impact on my connections with people. My silence has been a gift from God. May God bless us all as we seek to honor Him with our words and with our silence.
How can we pray for you as you seek the Holy Spirit’s help with hindering your empty words?
Peace and grace to you,
Terria serves on the LGG encourager and social media teams. She lives in Virginia with her husband. Her passion is igniting and empowering women to grab hold of God’s truth and cling to it. She can be found hard at work in military hospitals listening to patients’ stories while sharing the love that God has poured out in her life. Despite the sometimes chaotic circumstances of Terria’s life, God always shows Himself strong and loving.
Week 3 Challenge: It is important we learn to control the words we speak. Pay attention to the words you speak this week, making sure they are honoring to God. Reach out to a friend to pray for you and hold you accountable.
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I’m a priest’s wife (Episcopal) and I want to stay on top of this. Pray for me please. Thank you! I don’t want to say the wrong thing. This has helped me and I’ll look back over it and study it. I could use more help in this area. I want to encourage and edify and speak in love.
Thank you Meg for sharing this with us. Keeping you in prayer. These verses we have been studying have been very conviting for me, but in a good way. May God bless you and use you as you stand by your husband. Will keep you in prayer.
Hi Meg,
I can’t imagine how difficult it must be to be a priest’s wife…expected to have all of the right answers and say all of the right things. What an awesome privilege and a formidable challenge…but also an incredible opportunity to invite God unto your every interaction! Praying for you as you serve your congregation with love. May God greatly honor your sincere desire to speak life into the women you influence! ❤️
~Terria
Terria, thank you for sharing ! I too have been praying that I use my words wisely or not at all if I’m not presented with a time to speak. I too struggle with listening and need prayer to help me to remember when to speak. James 1:19
Hi Monica!
I think we ALL struggle with knowing when to speak and knowing when words just won’t suffice. We can pray for each other! I pray that when someone opens their heart to us, that we would be still and silent. I pray that our hearts and minds remain fully open to them and that we would respond in the timing and the manner that the Holy Spirit leads. May God bless you and your desire to become an even better listener! ❤️
~Terria
? Boy, does this hurt my feelings! I get incredibly stressed out sometimes and it never fails to hat I open my mouth and the cashier who was just rude to me? I make her feel about 1/2 inch tall.
I keep trying to get clear of this but it turned into a release valve for my temper. Definitely working on this harder.
Hi Beth!
I truly know the struggle! I was just sharing with someone just how much prayer it requires to guard our tongues. I will be praying for you as you practice loving others with God’s gift of silence. It sounds strange, but I have found such power in loving people through actions instead of words. Praying for God’s blessings upon you and all of the people He will use you to bless!❤️
~Terria (LGG Encourager)
I found this while looking for quote images “let your words be few.” This verse came to mind as I am yielding my heart and mind before Father God this morning and basking in His Presence. Thank you for taking time to write and share. I needed to be reminded of many of the thoughts you wrote.
Hi, I came across this site, when looking for encouragement around ‘Let your words be few.’ These words I heard yesterday morning after a time of prayer. I’ve struggled with my mouth for years. A few honest people in that time have told me I talk too much. Even yesterday, my husband remarked how I always feel I have to comment on stuff when it’s not necessary. Lately I have had serious trouble with wrong thoughts and muttering. These I am finding hard to control. So please pray for me in the area of my mouth and thought life. I too am so pleased that I have found these words of encouragement.
Hi Amber,
It’s amazing how God guides and leads us to nourishing places of edification right when we need it! I believe I wrote this almost a year ago. I am amazed at just how relevant it is for me now during these times. Women are pouring out their hearts in uncertainty, anxiety, and worry. I am focusing on setting that guard post before my mouth…allowing women to share their hearts. Listening as I give them space to feel and experience their emotions. Allowing the Holy Spirit to guide my words and actions. I find that it takes a lot of practice, patience, and prayer. I will be praying for you as you listen to and love the people in your sphere of influence. May God continue to bless your quiet times with Him!❤️
~Terria (LGG Encourager)
With reference to speaking, I found the following, in a very humanly described piece of experience: ‘Sometimes I open my big mouth and speak and sometimes I keep my big mouth shut and listen!’